Parenting is hard!
Calm, rage, sadness, guilt and proud. These are all the stages and emotions I felt in the space of 30 minutes today. So much has happened since my last blog. Unfortunately too much to update you on but fast forward to now and Jacob is almost one and walking, Mikey is in the final stages of Nursery and lots of talk about starting School in September.
Of course I am nervous about all of this but never more so than this morning when a child decided to push Mikey over whilst waiting to go in nursery. Boys will be boys we think and say all the time but was I a terrible mum in my reaction or lack of?
"landing an arm bar on him"
I believe in giving the benefit of doubt so scooped Mikey up off the floor asked him if he's ok and did he do anything to upset this child. As far as I saw he didn't do anything but I don't for a second believe my child is innocent 100% of the time. But his reaction told me he was innocent with his cry, the sort where his feelings had been hurt and the way he clung to me.
Another parent was surprised how I kept calm. Inside my heart was racing that he was so upset. The child's parent wasn't in view to me but they did witness it and made a pathetic attempt at telling her child he had upset Mikey. This made me rage. I had no idea this child was an issue until this moment and when another mum proceeded to tell me this is another sign of this child's continued misbehaviour. It's funny because Mikey had only mentioned this boy to me this morning. As he happily pointed out that he did not fight Barry and Josh yesterday (these are not their real names😂).
Mikey is Particularly happy to tell us because he has had an on going issue with the other boy which lead to (what I believe to have happened anyway), The child pushed him too far so Mikey pinned him down on the floor basically. My husband and friends reactions..."Good on him!". I'm pleased he stuck up for himself but I felt like the nursery teachers were starting to think that my child is the brute and not dealing with the real issue. Anyway! Should I have said something to the parent? Did I let Mikey down by not sticking up for him. I feel that in that moment I dealt with it the best I could, given I didn't know this child and there was a room full of children and parents. I dealt with it how I teach Mikey to deal with it. Just walk away and stay away from them. I did pass the information onto the teachers though! Little S**t haha 😂 This does fill me with complete dread though that these little runts may end up in his class. Where is the line between teaching him to stick up for himself without getting in trouble? I still feel completely awful that he's been through this on numerous occasions with these two trouble makers. Upsetting my kind and caring little boy. So I am solving it in the best way I can by showering my son with love, a sugar induced apology by way of a cup of sweets and a trip out for dinner to say sorry and well done for being a good boy and not jumping up and landing an arm bar on him. If it happens again i am certainly going to channel my mum's influences and deal with them the way she dealt with the kid who bullied me. Use that look and voice so they know who's boss and wish they never messed with my son. Ok ok maybe I should save that. They are only 4 after all lol But I wouldn't mind landing a forearm smash on his mother. Such violence! It may be necessary one day! Mum in a protective Mann's world!
