A Special Bond
The bond between a mother and son is something I never imagined I would/could experience. I'm sure mine is no different to any others but its amazing, odd and disturbing all in one go.
Recently Mikey has been complaining his back hurts. It's one where I'm just seeing how it goes. I'm not sure yet if it's because of a way he's slept, wrestling with his dad (don't try this at home, school or anywhere they say) or a real ailment.
The first time he told me I offered to give him a massage. Now he says his back hurts and says he will get the baby oil. So now I'm not sure if it really hurts or if he just wants a massage. Fair play to the boy though who doesn't want a daily massage?
I'm OK with it though because the other day I got one in return. To be fair, him and his little hands didn't do a bad job. I just thought this was a me and him thing but he's been handing them out to his dad also. Kind of hurt my feelings you know!
"Bloody cheek of him"
Michael has always had delicate skin so he needs to moisturise. Metrosexual man in the making! On the odd occasion, he would get a bit sore around his privates so I would do the motherly thing and apply some cream.
Now though if I go to moisturise his back he automatically asks for a bit of cream on his willy. We are now at the stage where I ask him to do it himself. Who am I to deny a kid some cream. But he is definitely old enough to do that himself now. He needs to learn there is a line. Someday it will be overstepped I'm sure (I'm speaking from experience) but until then let's establish the parent/child boundaries.
The way he looks to me for reassurance and understanding when he's dobbing in his dad because they have fallen out in some way. I am the most important person in the world Until they are best friends again.
He soon reminds me that I'm not his best friend and he loves daddy more than me. In my head, I think, "you will need me before I need you". Especially when its close to dinner time.
He has these subtle ways of showing his appreciation for my efforts. Like when he said, "I love your cool hair". Like he's noticed I've actually made an effort and straightened my hair for once. Or when he comes in from school and says, "I love my front room tidy". My reply was, "well maybe you can keep it tidy then". Bloody cheek of him.
His love is definitely on his terms but I know he cares because of the numerous spontaneous kisses he gives me. Like when he realised I tidied his bedroom for him or when I won Mariokart for him. Mum in a Manns world.
