Having Children Changes A Person

How Has It Changed You? Will it change you?

Since having my first born Michael it was clear life would never be the same again. I never expected quite how much of a change life would be. I expected the sleepless nights and rarely spending money on myself because my priorities had fast changed. But what else changed?

I have an amazing family full of confident characters, great sense of senses of humour and outspoken. I was never really very confident or outspoken myself though. With age, I became a little more confident in my abilities but I still had a long way to go.

Since having children I've definitely become more outspoken. Basically, I don't take any shit. That makes me sound really hard, I'm really not. But if you piss me off I will no longer roll over and say nothing. I will voice my opinion and demand to be heard.

I want my children to have the confidence in themselves and the ability to make their voice heard in a way I wasn't able to. If I had an argument with my older sister as child, She would run her mouth off at me and well quite frankly I didn't know how to do that. So instead I would just punch her. She didn't like that much!

As this is frowned upon in society I best not take that approach anymore. Instead, I choose to use my voice. This may be awkward for those I'm with, unfortunately. Take two occasions recently for example. My poor dad who evidently doesn't deal well with confrontation had to witness my outbursts.

I received poor service with a taxi company and voiced my opinion which got a bit heated. Another where an arrogant member of the public parked so close to our car we couldn't get in the boot. If I was on my own with the kids I'm not sure how they would have expected me to get in the car. I won't bore you with the details but my opinion on these occasions was definitely valid.

My point is people shouldn't be allowed to get away with things because they feel it's their right to do something. If we all behaved like that then what a world we would live in. As my wise mum said it's about choosing your battles which I completely agree with. I do this regularly with Mikey. There's A LOT! to choose from with him. If I feel strongly about how someone is treating me or my family then I'm not going to sit back and take it.

Since having children I'm more confident to speak up with my opinion but lacking confidence in my abilities. I give a caring hug and clean up poo really well but what happened to my other skills. What happened to the Business women who was driven and loved a challenge?

Well, she is definitely inside me still. Its a work in progress. My priorities have definitely changed I can't put myself first but I won't be putting myself last anymore. Don't mess with a Mum in a Mann's world.

I would love to know how being a parent has changed you? Good, Bad, Happy or Sad! Let me know in the comments below.

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